Some people, regardless of what they lack—money, looks or social connections—radiate with energy and confidence. Even the most skeptical individuals find themselves enamoured with these delightful personalities.
But how do they do it? How, in a world of rude, self-obsessed phone addicts, do these people charm the socks off the people they just met?
First, they make the other person feel important.
Right off the bat, an irresistible person understand that learning (and remembering) a new acquaintance’s name and taking the time to learn a little bit about them goes a long way. Skip the banal small talk and use the opportunity to ask more meaningful questions about the person themselves. Letting another shine their light for a little while makes you a social magnet in a world where connections are harder and harder to make.
Charming people are also vulnerable.
Nothing turns people off like a braggart or a one-upper and an irresistible person understands that we connect best through our shared shortcomings and the tests we have faced in life. When you’re connecting with another person, instead of giving them a rundown of your achievements and reciting your resume, crack open the mask just a little bit and experiment with being more candid about yourself and your life.
More than anything, being irresistible really means understanding how to treat people how they want to be treated, a concept known as the platinum rule. Learn to read people and interact with them in ways that are meaningful to them and you’ll soon find yourself on the road to irresistibility.